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January 12, 2017

Question: I watch a lot of porn that I am not that interested in acting out in reality. Am I just in denial about what I'm aroused to?

After viewing your browser history, are you worried that you unconsciously desire to actually have sex with a nun in clown makeup in the backseat of your mother’s 1983 station wagon? Rest assured, this is a common concern stemming from myths and confusion surrounding sexual fantasies and identit...

September 9, 2016

Question: I have had sex a lot for someone who is my age at 18. My friends all tell me it’s bad for me and that I should see a sex therapist. I know that having a lot of sex is bad, but I don't see anything wrong with it. It's not like I go out and have sex every other day and I have only had sex with 8 guys in the past 2 1/2 years. Do you think I have a problem or is it normal for someone my age to be like this? I'm so confus...

September 8, 2016

Question: I recently broke up with a man who I am in love with.  I'll admit I am insecure about both sexual performance and body image, and to be honest, I am just a self-conscious person in general, and I always second-guess myself.  I failed to initiate sex as often as he’d (and I’d) like, and he basically shut down. I tried to communicate with him about what he wanted, but by that time it was too little too late. He is terr...

September 1, 2016

Question: I'm a polyamorous, bisexual woman who's having trouble with her primary partner. My (male) partner and I have been together for nearly a decade and I have had ongoing issues initiating sex with him, as well as accepting his sexual advances. I freeze up when he initiates because I feel uncomfortable, pressured, and anxious (when no real pressure is present or intended). Thinking about my partner trying to initiate sex...

August 26, 2016

Volume 1: The Pain and the Suffering

Last night was a typical Thursday evening that consisted of curling up on the couch with a mug of peppermint tea, staring at the wall, and thinking about sexually transmitted infections.  With songs from Antichrist Superstar playing in the background, I became nostalgic for the 90s and began reflecting about my early sex education in junior high.

If you had a similar experience as my own, sex...

August 25, 2016

Question: I’ve always been insecure about the size of my penis. How effective, if at all, are these pills that claim to increase size and performance? I am skeptical, but would be willing to try them if they worked.

If your spam folder is similar to most individuals’, it would seem that we are all suffering from small penises and are in desperate need of “all-natural male enhancement.”  However, these ads are coming from source...

July 5, 2016

Question: I recently caught my boyfriend of three years masturbating while wearing a pair of my panties.  He did not see me and I haven’t mentioned anything to him.  I’m shocked and turned off by this and wonder if he’s gay.  I’m also debating whether I should confront him about this.  What do you think I should do?

It is understandable that you were shocked by your boyfriend’s behavior, as it would be shocking t...

June 6, 2016

Question: I'm a lady in her twenties who has recently become interested in vaginal fisting. I've done some research on my own regarding the how-to, but doing that research also has made me nervous about possible side effects (the internet is a scary place). Can you please help me sort out the fact from fiction? What should I legitimately be concerned about?

You’re right, the Internet is scary and can easily convince you that a...

May 17, 2016

Question: I have always been attracted to women and all of my sexual encounters have been with women, but many people think that I am gay.  I’ll admit that my appearance and my interests fit the stereotypical gay male and it is starting to make me question my sexual orientation.  Am I just in denial about being gay?

Are you distressed that your clothes and your musical tastes are showing up on others’ gaydar?  Are you worr...

April 2, 2016

Question: I want to have sex while on my period because I notice my sex drive increases.  However, my fiancé thinks it would be gross.  Is there anything I can do to convince him?

Are you engaged to someone who lusts after you 21 days a month, but for one week treats you like a leper covered in bleeding skin lesions?  The fear and disgust associated with a menstruating woman is ancient and unfortunately continues in many p...

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